If you feel bad about this or happen to notice him noticing, you could write him an email later, when your libido calms down from its Tasmanian devil spin. I don’t think you should avoid him entirely-that would be rude-but you should also spend as little time with him as possible. Don’t stay for any longer than necessary. To honor the priorities that you have mapped out, the most humane thing to do at this party that you simply must attend is to be cordial to your friend while maintaining a distance. Props to you for your consideration and desire to handle this ethically. At other times, I don’t seem to have a problem keeping any attraction under control. It’s like the horniness was a fire hose I had to constantly keep trained elsewhere, and it was exhausting, if not impossible. The last time I saw him during Hornygeddon, I basically had to excuse myself and flee for fear of doing or saying something that would make him uncomfortable, and then I fantasized about him for days afterward. He’s currently in a happy relationship that’s most likely monogamous, and in any case, I wouldn’t want anything to happen between us for reasons of awkwardness, prioritizing our friendship (which I value above sex), etc. We don’t have a flirty rapport or anything like that, just a mostly staid and mutually respectful friendship. I have a longtime close male friend whom I guess I’ve always been attracted to, with perhaps occasional flickers of mutual sexual tension, but nothing’s ever happened between us-I met him back when my relationship was closed, then he was in a long-term relationship, yadda yadda. You have to pick a lane: Send pics and show affection with clear caveats, or find peace with the complicated dynamics you’re helping foster. That means the only way to make it clear that you aren’t interested, that you’re just having some digital fun or whatever it is you’re doing (what are you actually doing?), is to say so explicitly. There’s nothing wrong with sharing nudes (provided the recipient’s consent), but you should understand that along with your muff shots, you’re sending a message of potential sexual interest and/or availability. I’d be a hypocrite if I advised you not to express your sexuality. It doesn’t sound like you are trying at all.
I don’t mean to interrupt your merry, nearly nude traipse through life, but a good way to set boundaries is to actually set them. But I also don’t want him to try to come on to me, because rejecting him in that scenario would also be awkward.
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